Saturday, September 26, 2015
You Can Make the Pathway Bright
Recently I have begun to participate in a college program offered through BYU-Idaho. It is called Pathway, which is a great description. It gives me and others like me the chance to ease back into the world of education after many years away.
One thing that has really been shouting in my head these past couple of weeks has been how I feel about other people. Because of the kind of work I do, sitting in a courtroom and writing down all kinds of things, some of which I wish I didn't have to hear, I am constantly being faced with the choice to judge the people I see or to see them as struggling just as I, but in different ways. In fact, someone in the weekly class we attend asked me the other night how I can separate myself from the bad things I hear and not be overcome with despair.
I'd like to answer that question. First, while I often say this as if it is a joke, it's really true: Sitting in that courtroom and seeing the things that others are doing or experiencing sure makes my family problems look so simple. I normally come home and just hug random family members because, despite our struggles, things could be so much more difficult.
Second, sometime ago I recognized that I needed to make it a life goal to view others as the children of the same Heavenly Father I worship and love. That is often my prayer, that I can see others through His lens. I mean, face it, that's hard to do when people do awful things and cause pain. As I have begun to study the first chapters of the Book of Mormon, which includes classic tales of families with all sorts of different personalities, I can see why it was intended for our use at this time. It makes me want to be a better person. I mean, talk about your "far worse problems than OUR family has"!
Finally, I want to say that I know the principles I am learning are from God. I know He wants me to refine myself and behave as His daughter should behave. Each step I take helps me see Him more clearly in the world around me. We live in such a troubled world these days, and being able to recognize God in the midst of all the suffering, knowing how He loves all of us and wants all of us to find joy makes me feel a greater desire to have compassion and empathy for others.
To conclude today's entry, I'd like to add that I love my family so much. Yes, I mean my husband, who has brought joy to my life these past 19 years. I also mean our two kids, who, despite their personal challenges, are great people with awesome potential. They make my heart glad. I love their individual personalities. They both teach me every day. That's right, I said they BOTH teach ME every day.
I love my older son, who just became engaged to a girl who makes him a better person. Seeing your child you thought would never know real happiness in life grow so much and find such a wonderful partner is one of the best things a parent can experience.
I have two daughters who are happily married and living lives far different from one another. I am happy to see their successes and sad to see their sorrows. I am grateful to have the opportunity to see the choices they are making in their lives. Being allowed in is a blessing most people do not even recognize because, for them, it just "is."
I love my other kids too, those who don't currently have a relationship with me, and I can respect that, thought it grieves my heart every day. I listen for news and pray for them every single day. They were dealt a tough hand in their early lives, and it makes me glad to see them overcome.
I am so grateful to be a daughter of Heavenly Father. I know He knows who I am. I know He knows the things of which I am capable, even as I struggle to recognize them in myself.
Isn't that the purpose of our being here?
Monday, September 7, 2015
The Lord Looketh on the Heart
There was a *father
who was deeply religious and had been blessed to bring many, many people to the
Lord’s church. He and his wife raised a family, and when children grow up, we
as parents soon discover that we are not always able to direct them anymore.
Basically it’s time for them to be independent, and they really are NOT carbon
copies of their parents.
Same thing happened to this devout man and his wife.
They had a **son who not only refused to participate in church activities, but
he began to sneak behind his parents’ backs to participate in all kinds of
riotous living. He even did everything he could to drag others away from the
church. He had a group of partying friends, +brothers, whose #+father was as devout as this young man’s father. Their father was a leader in his
community and was Christlike in his behavior towards others. Both sets of parents
were so distraught. What more could they have done?
I’ve
wondered about these families and how others in their devout community viewed
the parents, perhaps judging them for their obvious failure or secret sins that
led to their boys turning out so “badly.” I mean, if the parents were truly
devout and raising their children the way they had been counseled by their
spiritual leaders, how could they have failed so grandly? Perhaps they kept
their children away from the families, especially the sinful sons, much like
some people in our culture who don’t let their children play with children not
of their faith. I’m sure they didn’t want to get tainted by such
unrighteousness.
But after a
life-changing event that shook him to the very core, the one son awakened from
his spiritual slumber. His friends were equally affected. I can only imagine
what they saw when they surveyed their lives and their past and all the damage
they had done to so many people. These young men humbly repented and
devoted the rest of their lives to building God’s kingdom they had tried so
hard to destroy in the past. I again wonder how that behavior was viewed by
their community. “Hey, weren’t these the boys who were telling us how stupid we
were for being religious?” “Aren’t they the people who would stop at nothing to
destroy God’s church?” “Yeah, yeah, SURE they’ve turned over a new leaf.” “SURE
they are serving as instruments in God’s hands.” “I don’t buy it.” “Once a
sinner, always a sinner.” “Why would God care to use people such as these?”
While I am
referring to actual young men who lived, they were not part of our “modern”
culture but lived over 2,000 years ago. In speaking of the one boy, most likely
the most vocal of all of them, scripture describes him: “And he became a great hinderment to the
prosperity of the church of God; stealing away the hearts of the people;
causing much dissension among the people; giving a chance for the enemy of God
to exercise his power over them.”¹
Can you imagine the families of those he led
away ever being able to forgive him and look at him without disdain? Maybe even
hate?
In the New Testament
there is a similar story about a *+man who grew up in a devout family and who
was a part of the religious ruling body of his faith. He saw Jesus Christ and
his followers as destructive to his faith and fought as hard as he could to
stop the movement. And then he, too, had a life-changing event that also shook
him to the core. He then realized that everything he thought about the movement
he sought to destroy (even so far as being instrumental in the death(s) of
follower(s) of said movement) was completely wrong. I can’t imagine how hard it
was for him to face his past and be fully aware of all the damage he had
caused, the lives he had destroyed. His repentance process must have been
harrowing. The other man/boy who had lived about 100 years before the New
Testament man had this to say about his repentance process: “Yea, I say unto you, my son, that there
could be nothing so exquisite and so bitter as
were my pains. Yea, and again I say unto you, my son, that on the other hand,
there can be nothing so exquisite and sweet as was
my joy.”²
These are
two of my most favorite scripture stories. You know why? Because all of these
men did bad things. Even the man who was fighting for his faith did things that
crossed the line. These were the kind of people that we devout people try to
avoid as if they are contagious. The only people who didn’t turn away from them
were those who agreed with them. And God chose them anyway and went out of His
way to get their attention. Their hearts were obviously good because they
immediately repented and devoted all of their energy to reversing the damage
they had caused. Each of them had such a profound spiritual experience, some
even seeing or hearing an angel or Christ himself, who had come to call them to
repentance. Why? God doesn’t do that for everyone. Most of us will live our
lives without ever seeing a heavenly being. And these guys surely weren’t righteous
enough, were they?
Ahh, but you
see, I am looking through my human glasses again. If you look at these men
through heavenly glasses, you can see that all of the good work they were able
to accomplish in the years that followed was extremely important and blessed
far more than they had hurt in their young lives. The human eye would only see
their sin and error; but our Father in Heaven calls whom He wants to call and
can do it however He wants. And sometimes He doesn’t use a still, small voice
but instead uses the thundering voice of an angel to get someone’s attention.
Repentance
is very real and very important. It is one of the most important gifts we have
been given through the Atonement of Jesus Christ. Without repentance, the
Atonement would be all for naught. Know any sinners? If you are honest, you count yourself in that group. And we are really only supposed to worry about ourselves and our own sins.
Each of us is chosen. Our roles vary. Some
seem bigger than others, but we each have a part to play. Heavenly Father is
counting on us. I challenge
each of us to slip on some heavenly glasses and look at others through the
lenses our Father uses to see all of us. How much more beautiful would this
world be, do you think?
*Alma
the Elder
**Alma
the Younger
+Sons
of Mosiah
+#Mosiah
*+Saul/Paul
¹ - Mosiah 27:9
² - Alma 36:21
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