My maternal grandparents on their wedding day
July
16, 2016
During
this, my final semester in the Pathway program, we have been studying: “?The Family – A Proclamation to the World.”
Through the weeks of study and discussion and reading – oh, so MUCH reading –
my understanding of the nature of human beings and our place in the world
created by our Father in Heaven hasn’t just grown but also matured.
When
I was a little girl, our family was solicited by some adults from a nearby
church, looking for children the parents might wish to attend the church. My
parents agreed, and each Sunday I would be picked up by a bus and taken to the
church to attend. This both gratifies and horrifies at the same time! I am
grateful because this gave me an early introduction to God and led to a
lifelong study of Him and His Son, Jesus Christ. I expect I’ll live for many
more decades, because I have only scratched the surface.
About
half a dozen years later, living in a smaller town by then, I was introduced to
the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. My family’s learning about the
Church opened my world exponentially. Suddenly I had structure and guidelines
in my life that made me feel very comfortable and safe. I also had direction. I
knew who I wanted to be and who I wanted to marry (well, I had the idea of him
in my mind). I was a little muddled on what I wanted to study if allowed the
opportunity to go to college.
Unfortunately,
my plans didn’t even come close to gelling as I grew older. It seems it’s been
an agonizing uphill battle since, and I wonder many times a day why it is so
hard and how I let it end up this way.
And
then came the third semester of Pathway. Step by step I have studied the
Proclamation and felt my testimony grow. I have been learning the “whys” of all
the things I now believe. I feel as though those answers have given solid
foundation to my testimony of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
Almost
20 years ago I met a man who was every bit as imperfect as I, and maybe more so
than I realized, what with the stars in my eyes those first few months. Despite
our best intentions, we ended up hitching ourselves to the same star and
purposefully stepping out on what we hoped would be a wonderful, healing
journey.
I
will forever be grateful for the concept of Eternal families. While my faith in
this concept caused me to hang on longer than I should in a dismal marriage
that was never good, it has also helped me to hold onto to the precious
treasure I now have in my husband and our marriage, despite the fact that all
life around us conspired to pull us apart.
The
Proclamation teaches that men and women were created and later born to be just
that: Men and women! Accepting myself
with all my imperfections includes accepting that I am me, and that me is a
woman. I am grateful to never have been saddled with the burden of questioning
my gender identity because I know there is really no question in my Father’s
eyes.
Another
thing we are taught by the Proclamation is that men and women have equal but
different roles in the very worthy goal of marrying and raising a family. It
has been a hard thing for me to study the Proclamation at a time where I can
look back on a life of regret, but I find courage in knowing that I am not
alone in my struggles.
Thursday
we attended the wedding festivities for my sister-in-law, who had waited and
prepared for many years before finally meeting someone who was worthy of her.
In those few days, I was able to see in them the knowledge that our Father in
Heaven knows them, loves them, and wants them to a righteous husband and wife.
For them, this is truly the very beginning of lifetimes of opportunity and joy.
As any “old” married couple, my husband and I were reminded of our commitments
to one another and to that same Father in Heaven as well as His to us. There is
peace in that knowledge.